I know my blog is about my weightloss journey. I looked up the definition of the word journey;
“a long and often difficult process of personal change and development.”
I realised it is so much more than just a weightloss journey. For me to live a happy and healthy life I need to work on all areas of my life.
This is something I need to work on to be able to achieve the ultimate goal which is to be happy and healthy.
Why do I struggle to avoid people’s harsh opinions?
Something you need to know about me is – I am a very soft person with a very strong will.
At this point of my life, those two do not go together very well.
Being a person with a strong will, that wants to succeed, it requires being around people that always tries to get you down. (No one wants someone to be better than them) It sucks!! I never realised that ‘the big world out there’ can be full of such disgusting people. Boy OH boy, did I realise this fact quicker than I would have hoped to?
On the other hand, my soft side – I always try to be nice. I try to help where I can. I cry very quickly and I feel I am to young to lift my opinion or, ‘be rude’ back to whomever it might be carrying on at me because they are older than me.
“Respect your elders” my mother taught us. Now I would’ve loooved to say “bullshit! They started this fight!!” Unfortunately, I am not that person.
For some pathetic reason, what people say and how they treat me effects me in a huge way!! I seem to always take it personally, like they saying it because something is wrong with me. I am doing something that they don’t like?
How rediculous right? Why does their opinion matter to me?
I read this amazing article that touched my heart, How to stop letting others opinions guide your life
What an insightful post. I read the whole article but this part made me realise that people’s opinion doesn’t matter, it is who YOU believe you are and what YOU believe you can achieve that matters.
Because other people don’t live your life, you can only live it for yourself. And for that, you must stop listening to others’ inflated belief systems.
For a while after entering the ‘big world’ I thought that having the combination of emotions and will power is a bad thing, I honestly still had that thought 10 minutes ago. Then I read that article.
The sad truth is, people will always try to get to you. Nobody wants anybody to go ahead in life but themselves. It is how you handle criticism that will make the difference.
How I used to handle it, I start crying because I don’t understand why they are so rude – WRONG way!!
They are rude because they see my ability, what I can achieve and they are trying to use my GIFT against me, my soft nature.
Yes, I see it as a gift. It is a gift to be able to look at someone and see deeper than just the person, to be able to put yourself in their shoes and realise they maybe had lots of pain in their past. To be a friend to someone and trying to be there for people. That is a gift.
People will no longer use my gift against me. My future husband always tells me “take it from who it comes.” Really, who are these people to me? For me to allow their opinion to hurt and effect my life, my success?
I will use my gift against them Yes, thats right! I will kill them with kindness. How embarrassed will those people be if they see this girl smiling at them and carrying on with her life as if they weren’t talking at all? They will see that their opinion means nothing to me and they will realise that they have LOST!! They are not getting to me anymore.
I am an emotional person, nothing wrong with that. What I need to realise is;
“What other people think of me is none of my business.” ~Wayne Dyer
And THAT quote right there, it will change my future. What are those people in my life? Nothing!! What they think of me, it is none of my business! 😀