Happiness, journey, life, Woman

The only opinion that should matter is the person you see when you are looking in the mirror…

I know my blog is about my weightloss journey. I looked up the definition of the word journey;

a long and often difficult process of personal change and development.

I realised it is so much more than just a weightloss journey. For me to live a happy and healthy life I need to work on all areas of my life.

This is something I need to work on to be able to achieve the ultimate goal which is to be happy and healthy.

Why do I struggle to avoid people’s harsh opinions?

Something you need to know about me is – I am a very soft person with a very strong will.

At this point of my life, those two do not go together very well.

Being a person with a strong will, that wants to succeed, it requires being around people that always tries to get you down. (No one wants someone to be better than them) It sucks!! I never realised that ‘the big world out there’ can be full of such disgusting people. Boy OH boy, did I realise this fact quicker than I would have hoped to?

On the other hand, my soft side – I always try to be nice. I try to help where I can. I cry very quickly and I feel I am to young to lift my opinion or, ‘be rude’ back to whomever it might be carrying on at me because they are older than me.

“Respect your elders” my mother taught us. Now I would’ve loooved to say “bullshit! They started this fight!!” Unfortunately, I am not that person.

For some pathetic reason, what people say and how they treat me effects me in a huge way!! I seem to always take it personally, like they saying it because something is wrong with me. I am doing something that they don’t like?

How rediculous right? Why does their opinion matter to me?

I read this amazing article that touched my heart, How to stop letting others opinions guide your life

What an insightful post. I read the whole article but this part made me realise that people’s opinion doesn’t matter, it is who YOU believe you are and what YOU believe you can achieve that matters.

Because other people don’t live your life, you can only live it for yourself. And for that, you must stop listening to others’ inflated belief systems.

For a while after entering the ‘big world’ I thought that having the combination of emotions and will power is a bad thing, I honestly still had that thought 10 minutes ago. Then I read that article.

The sad truth is, people will always try to get to you. Nobody wants anybody to go ahead in life but themselves. It is how you handle criticism that will make the difference.

How I used to handle it, I start crying because I don’t understand why they are so rude – WRONG way!!

They are rude because they see my ability, what I can achieve and they are trying to use my GIFT against me, my soft nature.

Yes, I see it as a gift. It is a gift to be able to look at someone and see deeper than just the person, to be able to put yourself in their shoes and realise they maybe had lots of pain in their past. To be a friend to someone and trying to be there for people. That is a gift.

People will no longer use my gift against me. My future husband always tells me “take it from who it comes.” Really, who are these people to me? For me to allow their opinion to hurt and effect my life, my success?

I will use my gift against them Yes, thats right! I will kill them with kindness. How embarrassed will those people be if they see this girl smiling at them and carrying on with her life as if they weren’t talking at all? They will see that their opinion means nothing to me and they will realise that they have LOST!! They are not getting to me anymore.

I am an emotional person, nothing wrong with that. What I need to realise is;

“What other people think of me is none of my business.” ~Wayne Dyer

And THAT quote right there, it will change my future. What are those people in my life? Nothing!! What they think of me, it is none of my business! 😀

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Happiness, journey, life

Living to the power of “P”

Today I realised how important it is to live your life with Positivity.

Definition of positive thinking:

Positive thinking is a mental attitude in wich you expect good and favorable results. In other words, positive thinking is the process of creating thoughts that create and transform energy into reality. A positive mind waits for happiness, health and a happy ending in any situation.

I have a short story to tell –

We listen to the radio every morning before getting ready for work. So this morning there was a competition (you send your name, they will phone you and you must say a certain phrase when answering the phone.)

Now also you must understand it is a very popular station so there are 1000’s entering their competitions. I obviously entered because I love winning, it is so cool.

I sent the message and I was 100% sure they would phone so I wrote down the phrase I must say when answering, everything- I was ready to win. My boyfriend said, ‘they won’t phone man, why you writing it down?’ I replied, ‘I am preparing my fields.’

A few minutes later my phone rang and it was them, I said the phrase and I won R4000.

This made me realise, being positive, preparing yourself for success is SO important!!

Do you know that if you prepare yourself for success the chances are, you WILL be successful!!

The brain is a wonderful thing but it can be very dangerous!!

Lets look at our thoughts…

If you repeatedly say “I cannot do this!!”

What is going to happen? You will NOT be able to do it!!

Your brain is so strong, but unfortunately he cannot ‘work’ on his own, he will become what his ‘owner’ is.

Now you must ask yourself the question, ‘what type of owner are you?’

Do you speak positive words?

Do you work hard?

Do you believe in yourself?

Or…

Are you always complaining, being negative?

Are you always looking for excuses as for why you cannot do something?

Do you give up before even trying?

This is very important, what type of owner are you??

Your brain will only be as strong as you allow him to be.

The brain can be a very strong tool, but it is up to YOU to activate his strengths.

How to be a good owner to your brain:

  1. Firstly, you need to realise – it is up to you!! It is no one else’s job to live your life. You are responsible for the life you live.
  2. Be positive – if YOU are positive, you will get positive results because your brain will be focused on only positive things.
  3. Let no person get you down – You are special, nothing that anyone else says should matter, don’t allow any negative comments in your life.
  4. Work hard – train your brain to go the extra mile, to work just a little bit harder everytime.
  5. Set goals – set a goal and tell yourself that you will NOT stop untill the day you kicked that goal under the butt.
  6. Tell yourself you are beautiful – every morning you wake up, look at yourself in the mirror and say ‘morning gorgeous.’ Why?? Even if you do not think you are gorgeous, by repeating it everyday, believe me, you will start believing that you are!! And you are, you should believe it 🙂

Being positive will do so much for you. You will live a better life, you will achieve more, you will be much happier and most importantly – You will wake up with a fire in your heart believing that you CAN do everything you put your mind to!!

Your success, what you become in life, your happiness, your health, your dreams, your salary, your weight – it is all up to you!!

No one can force you to be a happier, stronger person.

Just remember this quote:

“The decisions you make today will be the person you are tomorrow.”

Why would you want to be a negative, unhappy, unsuccessful person out of your own will??

If you want something, WORK FOR IT!! Nothing gets given to you on a silver plate.

If you feel negative, think about positive things that makes you happy!!

You are the owner of your brain, of your life, only you can make the decision to change things, either for the better or, unfortunately some people decide to change for the worse.

I ask again, what type of owner will you be from today onwards?

You are stronger than you think, you can do ANYTHING you put your mind to!!

Prepare your fields, for when the day comes and it starts raining you are ready.

Do not live a life where one day you look back and wish you had been more positive, stronger, happier… There is never a better moment than RIGHT NOW, if you want to be happier, make the decision to start being positive.

🙂 xx

Health, journey

Breaking SUCCESS up, one letter at a time!!

Being on this journey, obviously the ultimate goal is to be successful. To reach my goal weight and to be healthy.

I broke up the word –SUCCESS

What this word means to me as an individual and how each letter will effect how I continue and ultimately finish this journey of mine.

The meaning of the word -SUCCESS-

“The accomplishment of an aim or purpose.”

Let’s break it up

SELF-CONFIDENT

“Trusting in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.”

This first ‘S’ is so important, if you don’t have confidence in yourself that you CAN do this…why start?? You need to believe in yourself or it will just be another failed attempt.

UNBREAKABLE:
“Not liable to break or able to be broken easily.”

Yes, it won’t always be an easy road but I WILL NOT break. Every battle, every emotion I will face and overcome.

CAPABILITY:

“The power or ability to do something.”

I do have legs, I do have arms and a young, healthy brain. I am completely CAPABLE of doing this so long my MIND is on what needs to be done. (Your mind is powerful)

COMMITMENT:

“The state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.”

Before you start this you need to realise it is not going to be easy all the time but you need to make the decision that no matter what you will keep fighting for the end result. Work hard and stay focused.

EFFECTIVE:

“The degree to which something is successful in producing a desired result; success.”
Have you ever heard the phrase, “It’s not always where you finish in the race that matters, but how you run the race” – this simply means: don’t look at the end result, concentrate on doing the ‘inbetweens’ right so that when you get to the end you know you did your best.

STRATEGIC:

“Relating to the identification of long-term or overall aims and interests and the means of achieving them.”

Decide what it is you want to achieve, set goals along the way. Plan what needs to be done to reach your goal and follow those plans/goals you set for yourself, day in and day out.

SELF-DISCIPLINED:

“The ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weaknesses.”

I am an emotional person, I do not see it as a weakness but it can effect the outcome of a lot of things, if you tend to get emotional quickly it can lead to you giving up or be demotivated. I will not let my emotions get in the way of what I want to achieve. I need to be focused on what I want and work hard to get there.

That is my personal breakdown of what the word -Success- means to me.

I hope that some of you can relate your situation to this breakdown and that it will help you to be the success you are destined to be 🙂